Is it really possible to truly forgive and forget when it comes to infidelity?
Every human has needs. When it comes right down to it, greed can be one of those needs. More often than it should happen, in life, people look at what’s out there and suddenly what they have isn’t enough. As our guest, Dr. Scott Halztman, says, “we live in a culture that says ‘you can have what you want, when you want it.'” This means that there can be a lot left that falls to the wayside when the greed impulse takes over, and oftentimes broken marriages and relationships are left in the wake.
When mistakes are made and hearts are broken, is there ever a way to repair the damage, move on and grow?
Today’s guest says that it is possible to recover from an affair and he has detailed exactly how this can be done in his latest book, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity.
Certified by the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, Dr. Scott Haltzman is also a Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association. A graduate of Brown, Scott completed his psychiatric training and chief residency at Yale University before love for his Alma Mater took him back to Rhode Island to serve on the Brown University faculty.
To find out more about Scott and his latest book, The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity, visit his website or check him out on Facebook.
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In a marriage, what are the building blocks of trust?
According to the dictionary, trust is defined as “the assured reliance in the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.” Having it is a critical factor and also the main foundation for any relationship, whether it’s a friendship, a parent-child relationship, or a marriage. Once trust is broken and an individual no longer feels that he or she can rely on their partner, the bond of faith can be very challenging to repair and rebuild.
Within a relationship, trust issues can stem from a multitude of problems–anything from emotional or physical affairs and hidden addictions to secrecy and lying. However, more subtle behaviors from spouses like constantly being late, being unreliable, or being insensitive can also shake the foundations of trust and honesty.
Today’s guest, Dr. Sara Salter of Wynns Family Psychology in Cary, NC, says the way to build strong, lasting trust within your marriage is to focus on certain specific factors including communication, openness and empathy. In addition to those, Sara has other important pointers and tips on how to build and maintain an unbreakable level of trust within your marriage.
To find out more about Sara and her practice, visit their website or call (919) 467-7777 to schedule an appointment.
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What’s the real story behind infidelity and affair proofing your marriage?
Though data varies, many researchers and clinicians would say that about 25 percent of men and 15 percent of women engage in an affair during the course of their marriage. Extramarital affairs cross all boundaries. While the news media chronicle the affairs of our leaders and the rich and famous, chances are we likely know couples in our own circles who have experienced infidelity. When it comes to affair proofing your marriage, there are some obvious steps, but also some not-so-obvious ones.
The research that is available suggests that affairs happen across ethnic and racial lines, in red states and blue ones, in the homes of the rich and in the homes of the poor, regardless of educational level and by both men and women. Unfortunately, the statistics show that affairs and infidelity issues can happen across the board. Armed with that knowledge, it’s important to also know the steps to take to ensure your marriage is protected from infidelity.
Today’s guest is one of our regulars, Dr. Kristen Wynns of Wynns Family Psychology in Cary, NC. Though you and your spouse ultimately have control over the boundaries in your relationship, Kristen is here to discuss some of the important tips you both can stick with for affair proofing your marriage.
To find out more about Kristen and her practice, visit her website, or call (919) 467-7777 to make an appointment.
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